From suffering to happily ever after – all you need to know

Hey beautiful people of the world 🙂

It is my intention with this post to give you another perspective and shine a different light in regards to all the moments where you have suffered and to wake you up to the astonishingly amazing reality that is waiting for you, calling you, that you are set/destined to live and that you have created for yourself out of your most painful moments.

In the worst moments of your life, had you experienced great suffering, lots of pain, trauma and in all of those “less than happy” periods you went through, you were simultaneously (consciously or not, doesn’t matter) creating something quite incredible beyond your ability to comprehend at the time … a new, heaven-dream-like life for yourself to live and experience in the future.

If you are perhaps in one of those periods, let me speak some faith into you, assure you that everything will turn out and, show you what is on the other side of every glimpse of hope you can hold on to.

To further guide you, explain it and show you how to collect your new prizes and leap into that new life, I will assume that you are familiar with the fact that while you are a human being living a worldly life, there is a larger part of you that is non-physical and unlimited, you can call it Source, Soul, Spirit, Universe, Higher Self, …

[If you are not familiar with it, read this: What is the Higher Self ]

I will also assume that you have some understanding of the energetic and vibrational nature of what we call “life” and “reality”.

[If not, read this: Get over the world ]

Follow my lead ….

Everything in this vibrational universe is perfectly balanced and has always an established relationship with its opposite.

For instance, you have day and you have night, you have light and you have darkness, you have joy and you have suffering, in direct opposition and with an established relationship with each other. In other words, there are always two ends of any “stick”, of any subject, and you can never experience one end of the “stick” without the other end being a reality, existent, present and, intrinsically known at some level.

In a straight forward approach, as we are ultimately talking frequency and vibration (what any experience really is), you cannot experience great suffering without the equivalent and opposite vibration of great love being ALREADY present in your vibrational reality.

And what gets more interesting and miraculous about all of this, is that the universe is not only vibrationally balanced, it is also expansive and always responsive to you.

In more simple terms, every time you are/were in great suffering, pain, confusion, discomfort, etc … you are simultaneously and automatically asking (with great power) for the improvement of everything you are experiencing, launching super powerful rockets of desire for relief, more clarity, more joy, more love, better conditions, much more pleasant circumstances, experiences, a better life and, a better reality.

And as you do so, your non-physical counterpart, the soul you, the universe, your future self, responds to your new desires, becoming a vibrational match to that which you are asking for.

In other words, your Higher Self/Soul/Universe becomes what you desire and holds it on a reality vortex (vibrational reality) for you to future experience.

Let’s see some practical examples:

In a time where you were ill, you were experiencing the vibrational difference between your natural energy of well-being and your state of vibration at that time (due to the thoughts, beliefs, perspectives, behaviors, … you had active) which created a gap between you and YOU, the human you and the soul YOU, manifested in the form of an illness.

At the same time of the experience of illness, you were simultaneously and automatically asking/desiring (consciously or not, it doesn’t matter) for greater health, for greater well-being, for greater body conditions and instantaneously your non-physical self, limitless and resistant free as it is, became the result of that asking and the culmination of those new desires, holding from that point onwards a vibrational frequency greater than what has ever been before.

In a time where you felt not loved, alone, abandoned, betrayed, you experience the difference between that and the unconditional love, wholeness, unity and, compassion you intrinsically know is your birthright while simultaneously you were launching rockets of desire for greater love, companion, union, blessed moments and happy experiences that the non-physical you became, creating a new improved vibrational reality for you to future experience.

And the same applies to every moment of your life where you felt less than satisfied.

So …. Drum rolls …

The deepest darkest moments of your life created a blessed, dream-heaven-like reality for you to live in the future.

(Even though time is an illusion, but you get the point)

You may notice that it is very common for people to find the lover of their lives after a terrible breakup, or to create fortunes after experiencing being bankrupt, or to live free and adventurous lives after being in an intense period of bondage, now you know why.

You see, not only your non-physical self becomes everything you ask and is happily raveling in all you dream and desire, as it is also calling you CONSTANTLY, every single second, towards what you (the whole of you) had become. Guiding and pulling you 24/7 to the realizations of the greater version of yourself, eager to give you every single one of the things you have asked for.

The question is …

Are you listening?

Are you allowing yourself to go with that pull?

Are you listening to that calling?

If you are, you feel good! Constantly, not necessarily 100% of the time, but on a very regular basis, and that’s how you know you are on the track of collecting these new vibrational “chips”, the new blessed experiences. Always becoming a greater energetic match to your non-physical expanded self, ready for the life you have carved for yourself, that the non-physical you is already living, to manifest here in the physical realm where you can see it, hear it, smell it, touch it and taste it.

See, because it is all a matter of frequency and your non-physical self is made of pure-positive energy, the culmination of the purest, dearest dreams, hopes, and wishes, therefore it vibrates at high frequencies such as satisfaction, joy, peace, love, freedom, …

Being the lower frequencies in the realms of fear, sadness, despair, discomfort, and the high frequencies in the opposite spectrum of comfort, joy, peace, love, excitement (in short, everything that feels good), you will always know to which frequency you are tuned to by paying attention to the way you feel.

And therefore being aware of the difference between the greater, expanded, soul version of you and your current perceptions, thoughts, and beliefs about yourself and about what you are focused upon at any given moment.

For instance, let’s imagine that your Higher Self is broadcasting at 101.1 FM and you are tuned to 91.40 FM, you will not be able to hear what it is transmitting without first adjusting your radio, aka your vibration, aka the way you feel to that same frequency.

So your real job is to tend and prioritize the way you feel above all else because the better you feel the more in sync and closer in frequency you become with your non-physical self.

In feeling better and allowing your energy levels to rise, you allow your Soul to catch you and take you upwards, and upwards, and upwards, in thoughts, feelings, emotions, experiences, realities, and manifestations.

When you are in sync with your Higher Self, you are tuned to the energy that creates worlds and you have access to all that source knows about you and about everything that matters to you. You will receive thoughts, ideas, impulses, inspirations, visions, dreams, guidance, and support, that will mesmerize you and make you surrender into the perfection of that alignment.

And most importantly, you will feel so good, loved and alive that you will never want to step out of that energy ever again.

So …

How do I feel good?

How do I raise my frequency?

How do I become a match to my greater self and listen to its call?

There are many ways to do so and every person will have different methods but some real gems I can give you are the following:

    Let go of what was, of how much it hurt, how hard it was, how long it took, all that old story, let it go! Your greater self never looks back, it is future-focused with everything you had become and are in the process of realizing. And you cannot see your amazing future if you can keep looking back, keeping the past active in your vibration.
    When you meditate you quiet or at least slow down your mind stoping the momentum of your current thoughts and beliefs, allowing your Higher Self to calibrate your energy to higher frequencies, cleansing, renewing, and upgrading you at all levels.
    Start appreciating, start noticing things that you can appreciate, enjoy, and are grateful for … A flower, a smile, a pet, the comfortable bed you have, the freshwater you drink, the abundant air you breathe, the sun on your skin, etc. Start making lists on your mind of all that you enjoy and appreciate, ravel in it, think about it, talk about it, keep all those appreciative good feeling vibes active within you. Writing and make lists of positive aspects of any kind is also very helpful because writing gives you a very strong point of focus.
    Just spend time in nature, walk on the beach, go for a swim in the ocean, hike, sit on the grass, smell a flower, touch a tree, … Your energy will rise so much just by you being there.
    Recognize when you feel inspired and/or excited about something! That is your Higher Self highlighting the path for you to follow. And last but not least, get in touch with your intuition, that inner feeling of knowing without logic or explanation, that higher instinct or gut feeling, trust it and follow it more and more and above anything else.

Bottom line, care about the way you feel, improve it, be consistent and the Universe, YOU, the greater YOU, will take care of everything else and you will just be chilling, watching magic unfold right before your eyes.

Much Love,

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6 thoughts on “From suffering to happily ever after – all you need to know

  1. Very inspiring message, to know that we are building this ” cornucopia” of positive energy to keep ourselves balanced, and that we can ” tap ” into it by expanding our awareness. My question: in your book you mention as one of the methods to let go of the ego would be to realize that there is no past, it never existed, so just let it go, and go straight to the Higher Self. But if I let go of my past ( negative, destructive energy ), in order to maintain the vibrational balance, wouldn’t I also lose the positive buildup of energy on the opposite side? Thanks,



    1. Hi Mike, thanks for your comment 🙂

      Here is the response to your question:

      Every time a new desire is born from you, big or small (sometimes in periods of suffering) the greater part of you (Higher Self) instantaneously becomes that which you desire and holds it in a vibrational manner.

      And what happens when you let go of the past aka negative energy, aka everything that makes you feel bad, you will be left with what remais, the energy of your Higher Self which feels like love, joy, passion, peace, etc and is a match and followed by physical manifestations of the desires you had “in store” in your vibrational realm.

      In other words, when you let go of the past energy that no longer serves you and therefore feels bad to you, you don’t get out of balance, you get REAL balance, balance in the energy of your true nature, which is a balance that goes from feeling satisfaction to feeling unconditional love and bliss most of the time!

      In that new state of being, the desires you previously requested can be shown and realized to you by You and that’s what we call physical manifestation.

      So, when you let go of the past, the only thing you lose is what is holding you back, all the rest, all the good stuff is very well focused on and being taken care of for a very long time by the energy of your higher self, it caries an infinite momentum with it and it’s never lost.

      Letting go of the past allows you to see your present with fresh eyes and walk towards the future you really want.

      That’s the balance your Source wants you know 🙂

      Hope it helps



  2. Hi Filipe,
    Hope you are having a great holiday. My question: I’m 76 yo, with 40 years of sobriety (Dec. 10.) AA has done wonders in helping me not to drink these many years. But the serenity part has been extremely elusive because of my destructive and negative behavior while drinking, and my very volatile family background while very young.

    I have been consistently utilizing yours and Bentinho’s suggestions in my spiritual program, but I keep reading in your articles the words “hearing”, “calling”, “listening”,”pulling”, and I’m not quite sure how to integrate these words into my life. I know that “letting go” is probably the crucial element in the process, but what am I supposed to be ” hearing”?; sounds, vibrations or what?

    This is my favorite article by you, because it does give me a lot of hope. Thanks again,


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    1. Hi Mike, hope you are having a very good holiday season too.

      Thank you for your questions, I can tell that you are headed in a very good direction and about to experience perhaps the greatest time of your life ever just by the nature of them.
      So if you feel yourself enjoying and regularly interested/pulled/drawn this article is because there is something very good in it that you want and at the same time the source of all knowledge within you aka Source aka Soul, … is Calling you towards!

      And yes, I am already using the words “called”, “pulled”, “drawn”, “interest”, “desire”, “resonance” so you can start to FEEL them, to FEEL the pull, to FELL the call, so it’s core understanding clicks within you prior to the explanation (because that’s how you really know, when your perception shifts, your vibration upgrades, your understanding clicks within and them you see the correlation in your experience without).

      These are such great questions that I might turn this into an article 🙂

      First, let’s get clear that you have a non-physical counterpart, usually referred to as Soul/Spirit/God/Higher Self/ Source/ … that you can also understand as your future-self standing in a place with 0 resistance, surrounded by every single thing you desire, currently living the answers to all your prayers and experiencing (present tense) all your dreams.

      That non-physical friend of yours is not just watching you from a far, it is literally YOU, connected to you, aware of every single thought that crosses your mind, aware of every single cell in your body, aware of what you want and desire and knowing what is the best path for to walk to get to where and what you want.

      That’s where guidance comes from, your infinite intelligent non-physical self, the future you who is in a VERY GOOD “PLACE”.
      And now you may wonder, “Well, having that infinite intelligent loving friend guiding me is fantastic but how do I in my life experience receive and follow its guidance?”
      Infinite intelligent aka Source, can guide you in every possible way under the sun, but as it is aware of you, it knows how you are most likely to hear, to get your attention in ways that will make you “move”.
      Now, it is very helpful to understand that the better you feel on a consistent basis the more open you are to receive and recognize the guidance that it’s coming from source, which FEELS very different from the guidance that comes from the news for example.
      So, the core basis of understanding the guidance of source, is by the way it feels to you!

      If a thought feels really good to you, that thought is being given to you by Source and your good emotion lets you know exactly that, “this thought and the perspective of my infinite self are a match”… The same goes for anything, if you specifically enjoy an article, source is enjoying that article with you and knows that what you reading will lead you in a very good spiral.

      All right, so knowing that a consistent good feeling emotion within me is the fertile ground for me to perceive more of source’s guidance/calling/pulling, and does that guidance manifests in “Human” terms.

      As I said, it can manifest in every single way possible that is relevant for you and I will give you some ways you can resonate with.

      – Things that get highlighted. Words that appear more evident than others, a road that seems brighter and more enjoyable for no particular reason while you are driving, a verse of a song that rings your bells with a very good sensation.

      – You receive good feeling thoughts and ideas. You’re walking through your day, chilling, feel really good for no particular reason, or you relax in the shower and a thought pops into your mind and it feels good… That’s Higher-Self giving it to you and CALLING you in that direction, highlighting that thought process for you. It can be a very subtle and small thought, that leads into another subtle and small good feeling thought, and another not so subtle and really good feeling thought, that in time will shift into an idea, that in time will shift into an experience, so forth and so on.

      – Impulses. Once again you are in a non-resistance state, your mind is not involved in any upsetting situation and without your deliberate intent your head turns just in time for you to see a beautiful person passing by, or your finger moves slightly more and turns your radio to another station to discover a new song that you like, or you feel the strong urge to call someone and you just pick up the phone and call in a split second and turns out to be a very good conversation … those non-intrusive, super natural impulses come from source.

      – Synchronicities. You see constantly repeating numbers? 777’s, 1111’s, 222’s, that a sign you are listening, you followed that call and got to the right place and the right time, turning your head in the right direction, in the perfect moment for you to encounter those numbers. When that happens recognize the following, Source is so aware of me and my life that can inspire me, guide by, drive me to encounter any single thing that matters to me and those numbers are evidence of other things that are working themselves out for you.
      And not just in numbers, do you listen to a song and the lyrics match exactly what the person sitting next to you in the coffee is saying? Same thing, synchronicity, right place, right time.

      – Other People. Source is just aware and connected to you, is also aware and connect to others. Do you have a question, and you forget the question, and suddenly someone comes up to you in a conversation and delivers the answer in perfect words almost as if it is just for you to hear them!? That’s also source giving guidance to you.

      – Dreams. Pay attention to your dreams, special the way you felt in them. they let you know where your vibration/energy stands in relationship to a certain topic, and they can also deliver very clear guidance from source. Make your intention to receive clear guidance from source within your dreams, relax and see what happens 😉 (and same goes for your awake life, you just are far less resistant in dreams).

      – Interest/resonance/desire. Do you find yourself interested in something? Interest is also a form of guidance for as long as it feels good, adventurous, fresh, bright, freeing, … to you. A lot of the things you now know and are an expert in first started with an interest, an interest in a certain song that lead you into learning to play an instrument, an interest in finances that lead you into learning how to trade stocks, and interest in a certain city that lead you into travel, etc … What you find interesting is also your higher self-highlighting a path for you to follow.
      And there are many other examples, just know that source always guides you to everything that you want through the path of most joy!

      To clarify the words, “calling”, “pulling”, “listening”, “allowing” guidance from the non-physical, see yourself for what you ultimately are … ENERGY! Having a huge infinitely powerful magnetic tower charged with the energy of everything that you are and everything that you want, from your core desires to the most simple things and that tower is connected to you pulling you in the form of emotion every single second of your life.

      When you allow yourself to go with that pull, you always feel an improvement in the way you feel, for example, if you are feeling sad and you get to feel hope, that’s you going with that pull, going with that flow, if you joy and you follow a thought that makes you feel bliss and love, you are allowing that pull to take you.

      And understanding that first energy manifests in the form of emotion, and later in the form of thoughts, impulses, and everything else.

      So, there is a very powerful Source calling you 24/7 to a very good feeling place, a very powerful energetic magnet pulling you towards everything you want and will benefit from and the only thing you need to do is to ALLOW IT.

      In other words, when you stop resisting the pull, it will take you!

      How does it take you, first in the form of emotion, and later in thought processes, impulses, experiences, etc…
      Allowing is another word for “feel good”, and for you to feel good in any given moment, you must withdraw your mind from things that cause you to feel bad. When you do so the pull of source will take you, will make you feel better, and will present to you all the solutions, all the dreams, all the desires you might want to experience.

      That’s what you may perceive as “letting go”, just understand that you can only let go of what’s bothering you, you can only let go of your resistances because Source is already living your dreams and desires and calling you there.

      So, meditate, sleep a little more, spend more time finding things and aspects to feel appreciation for, take time to chill, relax, withdraw your mind from anything upsetting even if just for a moment and the momentum of source energy will take you in.

      The improvement in the way you feel and as a given consequence in every area of your life will not just be evidence, will be an inner irrefutable knowing that you can no longer part yourself with.

      I also want to point out some things that may ease a lot of your journey Mike:

      – Doesn’t matter if you spent 40 years in the AA and had a terrible childhood, all that it did was to give you great contrast to create really good desires for you to connect with, and especially now that you are in the vicinity of source you can truly chill your past troubles aside and receive the Joyful life you are headed towards.

      – Make your spiritual work more simple and consistent, meaning, relax more, appreciate more, be easy on yourself more, catch yourself feeling good and milk those vibes, do it all for the fun of it, for the pleasure of good vibes, do it often and let the details be filled by the infinite perspective.

      – This spiritual/consciousness work is much easier than people tend to make it, we just have to make it consistent.

      – Also doesn’t matter what age you are, you are about to experience the best moments of your life.

      Enjoy 🙂


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